I grew up in a small town above the Arctic Circle, where generational trauma, shame, rejection, isolation, and abuse were part of my childhood gifts. For a long time it all curdled into shame that turned my life force back against itself: self-doubt, indecision, overwhelm, chronic dissatisfaction. I stopped trusting the fundamental goodness of my own impulses, and without that trust, I stopped living forward. I lived backward instead, into a future that was really just the past recurring. Every new person became a revisiting of an old wound.
If any of that sounds familiar, you already know the shape of it better than I could describe. What I can offer is what opens up on the other side. The difference between a person who is perpetually in their own way and one who isn't is a fullness of being and the ability to continually let go of the past and move into the future with trust, curiosity, and openness.
I've spent my career working with scientists, engineers, and deep thinkers - people who live in their heads, myself included. I know how easy it is to use big ideas as a shield, to stay busy analyzing while avoiding whatever's actually bothering you. You feel clever and nothing gets resolved.
I welcomed meditation, silent retreats, and nearly every healing practice a determined person can find. What I learned, every time, no matter how far you travel in search of the "insight that will unlock it all", it always comes back to the same thing: sitting with your feelings.
But your path isn't mine, and I'm not here to hand you my story as a solution to yours. Everyone's shame, fear, and doubt have its own shape, its own history, its own logic. The real work is finding what's true for you.
I am here to help you towards clarity through radical honesty and radical acceptance. The confusion, the overwhelm, the circling, the not-knowing-what-you-want…None of it is as tangled as it feels. There's an Ariadne's thread somewhere inside it.
And I'd be glad to help you find yours.
